Dear Gloria, Look--your editorial in the New York Times resonated with me. My knee jerks in sympathy with the notion that women have it harder. My knee jerks in sympathy to radical feminism, since the majority of my experience in facing discrimination is sexism and misogyny. Oh, yes.
The problem with jerking knees is that they aren't realistic. You wrote an editorial about sexism and the campaign. And I sympathize with much of it--heck, I don't even agree with many of Hillary Clinton's policies, and I almost want to vote for her out of a sense of self-defense. There's something about sexist BS that makes me want to flip the lever and say "fuck you" to the idiots. I felt the same way during Howard Dean's campaign, where his wife was pilloried for saying that she'd stay home in Vermont and continue her career as a doctor (bitch! you should move to the White House and do all sorts of work for free!).
But again--jerking knees, reality, all that. Although you said you didn't want to start a contest of who has it worse, you did. And I'm really sick of this. Gender doesn't trump race, and race doesn't trump gender. Okay?
You asserted that if Obama was a Black woman with so little experience, no one would take her seriously. I agree. I also agree that you have to be twice as good to prove you are half as good if you are a woman--but I also think that's the case if you're a person of color. Don't mistake a crush, a PR honeymoon, for the nomination.
Don't mistake Obama and Hillary Clinton's campaigns as proof that sexism is alive and well, or that racism isn't an issue.
And if Obama gets the nomination? Oh, we'll see the race card plenty--so many racists and closet racists will wax paranoid about Obama and "the Black establishment" that we could eradicate the national debt by taxing them for their rhetoric. Misogynists have had years to get to know and hate Hillary--not so much with Obama and racists.
If Obama was a Black woman, the vitiriol she'd recieve would be particularly toxic. We'd be treated to the racist cracks made about prominent Black women. We'd be treated to the "nappy-headed ho's" crack Imus made about Black women who were neither (and really, what's wrong with fabulous curly hair? I know women with hair like that, and lemme tell you, they are beautiful, and they aren't "ho's".) If Obama was a Black woman, she'd get racism and sexism thrown her way, a vicious combination.
It's much like the internalized misogyny of women who think it's okay to dismiss rape, advocate for the repeal of the 19th Amendment, and yelp on and on about how they don't think women should be/can handle being the President (or any other powerful figure). If Obama was a Black woman, she'd be pilloried as a welfare queen, a ho, "ghetto," and all sorts of other crappy things. And this would be on top of the misogynist crap ("shrill," "emotional," "manipulative,") and the racist crap ("the! Black! establishment! JessieJacksonandAlSharptonOMG!!1! "quotas!").
But the most likely thing to happen would be the quietest--if Obama was a woman, she'd be invisible. White women wouldn't take any notice of her, and men would take no notice of her. She wouldn't exist to them, because women of color don't exist to us. Let's not jump the gun. Yes, there are misogynists who told her to iron their shirts, and all they did was piss off the voters. And if Hillary goes back to the Obama/Osama crap, you'll probably see the same thing happen for Obama.
And you know? Not for nothing--Hillary did win New Hampshire. It's not proof that sexism is negligible, just like Ohio wasn't proof that racism is negligible.
More thoughts <a href="http://pinkofeministhellcat.typepad.com/pinko_feminist_hellcat/2008/01/and-another-thi.html">here</a>.
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